hehe... I try not to blaim the refs to much, due to the fact that I live in Georgia and this is the first season of our areas first ice hockey leauge, so many of the refs are clueless. Often myself and others who actually know the game have to tell the refs basic things. Like one ref would have every face-off at half-ice, even if I had covered the puck! One time the ref decided play was too stop-go-stop-go, so he said he would not call icing for the rest of the game, and it was halfway through the 2nd period
But geting back on topic... If you have a serious problem with one of the refs, I would talk to him after the game. Thats what i did. If you have an overall problem with all the refs, I would talk to the league officials about having the refs go through some sort of training course in which they are tought about matters such as yours.