Greetings froggy, welcome to the board.
First, a couple bits of general advice:
#1 - Take time writing and checking your posts. Your post was very difficult to read and understand.
#2 - Before posting, do a search on the board. There are quite a few threads about advice for starting goalies.
More goalie-specific:
Check out Keek's cd-rom for lots of info, from basic stance, to advanced tips and tricks. Here's a link:
http://clam.rutgers.edu/~wrighter/KeeksGoalCDR.pdf
(I hope it is ok that it is on my site. I had a hard time finding the link before).
Work on your high gloves (blocker too, not just catcher), as you are doing. Check out your stance and angle too. Are you far enough out of the net to cut down the arial angle?
On dekes, you must be very patient. First, you must be traveling about the same speed as the shooter. If you are not moving, he will blow by you. Second, you have to wait for him to make his move (generally). You already know what happens when you commit too early. Practice practice practice is the only way you condition yourself to do this.
Some people will probably violently disagree with me here, but I say don't worry so much about your gear. I've seen many goalies who spend huge wads of cash on gear, apparently with the belief that better gear will make them a better goalie. Gear should be adequate to keep you from getting hurt and reasonably effective for its purpose. By "reasonably effective" I mean a blocker should be a blocker, and not just a forward's glove; leg pads should fit and should allow you to butterfly. We all love getting new gear, no doubt about it, but I think especially when you are starting out, your main focus should be on developing skill. As long as your gear doesn't hinder your ability to work on skills, then it is adequate. (Example of bad gear is something that doesn't offer enough protection, or gear that fits so poorly or is so worn that you trip over straps, over the gear, it falls off, etc.)
One caveat I'll throw in here is this:
worry about your mask. Since your noggin is what makes everything else work, get the most protective mask/helmet you can afford. Everything else is secondary.
Just my two cents. Hope this helps.
Cheers,
Wrighter